Women
more Choshuv than Men?
Dovid
Eidensohn
Before
he died, the daughters of Tselofchod approached Moshe Rabbeinu with a halacha
question. Their father died and left no son; but the daughters wanted a portion
of Israel when the Jews went there. Moshe did not know the law and asked HaShem.
HaShem replied that the daughters of
Tselofchod were right and were entitled to their portion in the land. Rashi says, “This shows that the daughters of
Tselofchod could see farther into heaven than Moshe could.” Which is an
extraordinary thought. But I look at it differently. I feel that this, which
took place just before Moshe died, was a great encouragement for Moshe.
Meaning,
that if we look at the Torah and the prophetic books, we see great sins from
Jews. Moshe, of all people, knew this better than anyone. Regularly HaShem
would tell Moshe that He was angry at the Jews for their sins, and Moshe had to
pray to Him to forgive the Jews, which He usually did.
Now
Moshe was dying, and what would happen if the Jews continued to sin? Who would
pray to HaShem to save them from destruction? But now Moshe realized, that in
the merit of Jewish women, Israel was safe.
The
Gaon Rav Shmuel Taubenfeld zt”l once told me that the Zohar says that women relative
to men are special. This is a gemora in Baitsa 17A: “Greater is the trust
HaShem has in women than he has in men.” The gemora quotes this from Yeshayeh
the Prophet.
The
gemora in Sota 11b says that, “In the merit of the righteous women the Jews
were saved from Egypt.” The gemora talks about the horrors visited upon the Jewish
men and women, and how the women circumvented their portion of the suffering
and fed their suffering husbands in their hideous struggles. They visited their
husbands during their struggles and had babies from them. And HaShem sustained
these babies. These babies became the great multitude of Jews who merited to
leave Egypt.
My
grandmother once told me that Jewish women in those days always put their
energies into Jewish matters such as building up Israel, but the men joined
non-Jewish groups. I never forgot it. When I married and began having children
with HaShem’s help, I would speak every Shabbos for long periods on the
greatness of women. It is they who have the babies and who raise the babies. I
thank HaShem for the success we have had with our children who are known to be
outstanding.
Just
before, my daughter asked me a question she was asked, if a girl needs to help
her mother with the children but wants to doven a long time, and these
conflict. I told her that a shorter period of prayer with proper thought is
greater than much prayer without proper thought. I also told her that raising
children is the core of Jewish values and is given over to the women.
My
daughter told me that once her teacher was talking about the importance of
women. My daughter stood up and said, “My father always says that we must greatly
respect women for raising the children and sustaining the Jewish family.” That
was consider somewhat shocking.
Well,
it is several gemoras, a passage in Yeshasha the Prophet, and the hope of our
Jewish future. If only we could truly respect members of our own families, how
many happy children would emerge, who would in their time, bring more happy
Jews into the world.