Torah Questions by Yoni Benamou and Joe Orlow
Answers by Rabbi Dovid E. Eidensohn
CONTENT
I
am a Jewish male almost eighteen years of age. Is it wrong for me to be
unmarried at this age, even if I turn eighteen? I can get married now, but
without proper funds I cannot support a family. Am I a sinner?
Answer
to Question One:
The Shulchan Aruch in the beginning of Shulchan Aruch Even
Hoezer tells of the mitzvah of marrying at the age of seventeen or eighteen. See
Even Hoezer 1:3 in Otsar HaPoskim.
Eighteen according to one opinion means when the eighteenth year begins,
and it begins at the conclusion of the seventeenth year. That is, on the
seventeenth year birthday begins the eighteenth year. But the full eighteen
years do not happen until a year passes from the seventeenth birthday and there
is the eighteenth year birthday, when the person achieves a full eighteen
years. But the sin of not marrying begins at the beginning of the eighteenth
year at the seventeenth birthday when the person had a full seventeen years. That
is the time to marry according to this opinion.
Another opinion says that eighteen in the Shulchan Aruch
means not the beginning of the eighteenth year after the full seventeen year
birthday, but it means the final and full eighteen years, that happens at the
beginning of the nineteenth year.
In earlier
generations, a man who refused marriage was taken to the Beth Din and pressured
to marry. See Shulchan Aruch Even Hoezer I:3 that this pressure began at the
age of twenty. However, the Shulchan Aruch says that this pressure only applies
to one who “does not want to marry.” This person is a sinner. But one who is
actively seeking a shidduch is not pressured.
Also one who is busy learning Torah and is afraid that if he
marries he will have to go to work and not learn, is also not pressured. As
long as he does not have sinful thoughts, he is allowed to continue his
learning. However, if this goes on for a very long time there could be
problems. See Even Hoezer I:3 and Otsar HaPoskim there number 22. See also Even
Hoezer I:4 and Otsar Haposkim on the subject if a learner who refuses marriage
is completely free of marriage or should be told to marry.
I recall years ago when I learned
in Yeshiva and there was a boy a great masmid, always learning. He was also tall
and good looking. But he didn’t marry and was getting along in years. I went
over to him and said, “Look, you are a deeply pious person and want to keep the
Torah. If you had married, you would probably have had children by now. Is this
lack of children not considered by you a Hefsed merubo a “great loss” that
permits people to be lenient in some manners? He soon married.
Why do the
"Gadolim" I speak with not express sympathy for the struggle that
unlearned people have when they witness what appears to be a huge breach of
Halacha? Even an Av Bais Din told me he is in pain at the apparent
transgression in the case of permitting Tamar Epstein to remarry.
Why do these "Gadolim" not express embarrassment for issuing a ruling that smacks of pandering, even if they justify the pandering by saying they must uphold the illusion that "Gadolim" are perfect, or justify it because they must keep the money flowing to their Yeshivas?
What does it mean when "Gadolim" rule in such a way that others will sin based on the ruling and thus ruling in a way that is a Chillul Hashem? Practically speaking, do those who act this way have a Chelek in Olam Haba or is a lifetime of Torah and Mitzvos squandered by one misstep?
Why did the "Gadolim" stumble here? Or have they been playing fast and loose with the rules for years and just got caught here?
The "Gadolim" are acting silly. They say that the couple is forbidden and in the same breath say the couple can rely on Rabbi Greenblatt to stay together. Are the "Gadolim" insane?
Why do these "Gadolim" not express embarrassment for issuing a ruling that smacks of pandering, even if they justify the pandering by saying they must uphold the illusion that "Gadolim" are perfect, or justify it because they must keep the money flowing to their Yeshivas?
What does it mean when "Gadolim" rule in such a way that others will sin based on the ruling and thus ruling in a way that is a Chillul Hashem? Practically speaking, do those who act this way have a Chelek in Olam Haba or is a lifetime of Torah and Mitzvos squandered by one misstep?
Why did the "Gadolim" stumble here? Or have they been playing fast and loose with the rules for years and just got caught here?
The "Gadolim" are acting silly. They say that the couple is forbidden and in the same breath say the couple can rely on Rabbi Greenblatt to stay together. Are the "Gadolim" insane?
END QUESTIONS
From Rabbi Dovid E. Eidensohn
Joe, thank you for your five questions.
Let us take a look at them. We label them as questiontwo A, question two B,
then C then D then E.
Question Two – A group of
questions by Joe Orlow about “Gedolim”
Why do the
"Gadolim" I speak with not express sympathy for the struggle that
unlearned people have when they witness what appears to be a huge breach of
Halacha? Even an Av Bais Din told me he is in pain at the apparent
transgression in the case of permitting Tamar Epstein to remarry.
Answer Two A –
There was a huge eruption of Gedolim in Israel, America and Canada over the
Tamar Epstein scandal. Who was responsible for it? Shalom Kaminetsky, Shmuel
Kaminetsky, and Noto Greenblatt. I don’t know how many people think that they
are still Gedolim. On my blog, I call all of them Mamzer Makers. If Tamar ever
has a baby from Adam almost all rabbonim and Gedolim in the world will consider
the baby a definite mamzer diroayso. So who are the “gedolim” that you refer to
who don’t express sympathy for a huge breach of Halacha?
In truth, it is
not so simple that these three are the whole problem regarding Tamar. Shmuel
Kaminetsky went to David Feinstein who proclaimed that a Beth Din he would make
would adjudicate the situation of Shmuel Kaminetsky and his granting Tamar the
right to remarry without a GET. We are all waiting and waiting for that Beth
Din to adjudicate and nothing happened. Finally, I called up Hillel David and
asked him how the Beth Din could be silent when a woman is married to somebody
not her husband and if she has a baby it is a mamzer. He replied that the Beth
Din was only made as a service to help Shmuel Kaminetsky. It had nothing to do
with the rest of us. If I wanted to know what the Beth Din held, I would have
to ask Shmuel Kaminetsky.
I realized that
this Beth Din is simply an excuse to save Shmuel Kaminetsky as a “gadol” for
the Agudah. I blamed in my blog David Feinstein as an evil person and wrote
that he is worthy of being put in Cherem. Hillel David and the other Dayan are
about the same level. But people realize what happened and there is, especially
on my brother’s blog every day, a severe accounting for what Feinstein did.
Question Two B -
Why do these "Gadolim" not express embarrassment for issuing a
ruling that smacks of pandering, even if they justify the pandering by saying
they must uphold the illusion that "Gadolim" are perfect, or justify
it because they must keep the money flowing to their Yeshivas? End question 2b.
Answer Two B:
The two ninety year old rabbis S Kaminetsky and N Greenblatt may believe what
they want. They are not Gedolim and are known to invent halacha. When Tamar
first became interested in marrying without a GET I called N Greenblatt and
asked him how he could perform a marriage on a woman who is married to somebody
else and has no GET. He replied that Gedolim approved of it. That is a bald
lie. There are no Gedolim who approved it. The permission to marry without a
GET was a process of lies rooted in Shalom Kaminetsky and his father, who
fooled N Greenblatt to make the marriage ceremony. Greenblatt and the two
Kaminetskies are not people who know what it is to be embarrassed even when
they make mamzerim. Next question.
Another Answer
Two B. I believe this is included in answer One. The majority of gedolim were
furious with Greenblatt, and the two Kaminetskies. And when David Feinstein got
involved, there were many negative comnments about his “beth din.” End answer
Two B.
Question 2 C - What does it mean when "Gadolim" rule in such a way that others will sin based on the ruling and thus ruling in a way that is a Chillul Hashem? Practically speaking, do those who act this way have a Chelek in Olam Haba or is a lifetime of Torah and Mitzvos squandered by one misstep? End question 2 C.
Question 2 C - What does it mean when "Gadolim" rule in such a way that others will sin based on the ruling and thus ruling in a way that is a Chillul Hashem? Practically speaking, do those who act this way have a Chelek in Olam Haba or is a lifetime of Torah and Mitzvos squandered by one misstep? End question 2 C.
Answer question
2C: Again, the two Kaminetskies are not gedolim, they are only great in being
wicked and falsifying the Torah. Everybody knows this. The Brisker Rov in
Israel wrote a letter that Shmuel Kaminetsky is forbidden to teach Torah. He is
a real rosho.
Question 2 D - Why did the "Gadolim" stumble here? Or have they been playing fast and loose with the rules for years and just got caught here?
Question 2 D - Why did the "Gadolim" stumble here? Or have they been playing fast and loose with the rules for years and just got caught here?
Ansswer 2 D. No
Gedolim stumbled. Some very wicked and ignorant people stumbled, and they were
savaged by rabbis from around the world who pointed out that their permission
for Tamar to remarry without a GET was based upon plain lies and ridiculous
inventions.
Question 2 E - The "Gadolim" are acting silly. They say that the couple is forbidden and in the same breath say the couple can rely on Rabbi Greenblatt to stay together. Are the "Gadolim" insane?
Question 2 E - The "Gadolim" are acting silly. They say that the couple is forbidden and in the same breath say the couple can rely on Rabbi Greenblatt to stay together. Are the "Gadolim" insane?
Answer 2E –
These like Kaminetsky and Greenblatt are not acting silly and they are not
insane. They are full fledged wicked people who violate the Torah and make
mamzerim. David Feinstein helps S Kaminetsky and he will answer for this
terrible sin. He is not silly and he is not insane. But he backs a mamzer maker
and so he is wicked. And he probably had political reasons to fulfill his
wickedness, such as the need for the Agudah to maintain the fiction that Kaminetsky
is a Gadol. But he is a great sinner, not a Gadol. And David Feinstein belongs
in the same garbage can as Sammy.