A Prominent Monsey,
NY Family Loses Senior Members to a Higher World
By
Dovid Eidensohn
Even
in a city of noted Torah personalities, Monsey, NY is special. I was in Israel
recently for a few weeks and did not know of the recent passing of a very
prominent member of our community, Emil Tauber. He was devoted to promoting
Torah scholars and for a long time established funds to support the most
promising youth to become leaders of the Jewish people. One of his most
promising products was his brother Yechiel Tauber, who eventually established a
large and beautiful building housing many prominent Torah scholars. Emil Tauber
passed away when I was in Israel and Yechiel Tauber passed away before then,
but not before he established the beautiful building for Torah scholars and Beth
Din.
When
we mention the great who have passed on, it is appropriate to turn to Monsey,
NY, itself, and its history. Going back a few generations, we find that Monsey,
at least where many lived, was essentially a farming village with here and
there a shull or Yeshiva. Even in the past generation when I came to Monsey,
across the street from me was an apple orchard, and I once killed a snake in front
of my house a short distance from a major shull.
About
this time a prominent Torah personality from New York came to Monsey and recognized
its potential. He had a major Yeshiva of his own in New York City, but saw that
Monsey could eventually challenge in Torah terms even New York’s Torah
community. He came to what was the Spring Valley Yeshiva and joined the board
of directors. He advised them to go to the center of the business community in
Spring Valley. Route 59 stretched along major communities including Monsey and
Spring Valley. This New York rabbi saw that precisely in Spring Valley and
Monsey, the potential for fantastic money existed for those who would buy now,
when things were yet very much like a tiny place nobody would spend much money
to purchase. But the Board of Directors dismissed him completely. Somebody
commented, “What a dreamer.” The property at that point had little commercial
value. But today its value is incredible. And those few, such as somebody I
know personally for many years, who realized that the rabbi from New York was
right on target, began immediately buying up properties. These people are today
quite wealthy.
At
the time of the expansion of Monsey, at least at its early phases, I had left
Lakewood where I learned for the last two years of the life of the Gaon Reb
Aharon Kotler zt”l, and had moved to Monsey. I had, at this time, begun to
teach in a Monsey school, and my subject was Tanach. But I could not find good
sources for Tanach. As the Gaon Reb Yaacov Kaminetsky zt”l once said, “Nach
does not have strong commentators other than the Malbim, and his style is
unique.” I did find various comments on Nach but they were strange to me. I
read them carefully and came to the conclusion that these sources were Kabbala,
something I had never studied. I bought a beginner’s Kabbala book, and found it
was studying a biblical teaching, but what it wanted to teach was beyond me. I
stuck at it, and finally came up with a proper explanation. I subsequently
became strongly interested in Kabbala, but I needed a rebbe. And that I could
not find anywhere.
One
day, my wife wanted to visit a friend and I went along. As we left, the hostess
handed me a booklet. I thanked her for it and we left. I read it when I got home,
and realized that this book was Kabbala, and it had a lot that could teach me.
I noted who the author of this book was, someone from Israel, and contacted
him. He responded, and I began writing to him to the point that I was writing
him very often lengthy Kabbalistic ideas. But at that point he felt I was too
much into Kabbala, and should emphasize paskening Torah law. He challenged me
on this and asked me why I don’t just join a Kollel that teaches how to
interpret the Talmud. I told him that I wanted very much to find the right
Kollel, but the only one I really wanted to join had a style where everyone had
to learn exactly what the master of the school wanted them to master. I could
not do such a thing, because I had my own style and liked to dig deep into
things on my own. Eventually, the great rabbis of Israel Rabbi Moshe Feinstein
and Reb Yaacov Kaminetsky both complimented me for my ability in this. If I had
any brains, which at that point were obviously lacking, I would know that my
rebbe in this world and the next was right, and I would behave. But it seemed so
remote that I just went my merry way.
Later
on, I did begin learning halocho seriously. My style was to go to a senior
rabbi who had mastered the Talmud and its commentators, and ask a question on
the Torah. While he was thinking about my question, I would interject with my
own understanding. He would accept or reject it. One day I came to such a rabbi
and asked a question. His phone rang and he was off to answer somebody’s question.
You may or may not do such and such. So I waited. But this time the
conversation was going into a different sphere, and I was amazed. There was obviously
some major problem there, and I had no way to listening to it. So, I just sat
there. Finally, the rabbi concludes the conversation, and told me that he would
not answer this particular question. But he did advise me to go to the
Strassberger Rov, the senior Rabbi in Israel on Gittin, who was visiting his
son-in-law Rabbi Eichenstein zt”l, who lived right down the block from where I
was with that Rov.
I
came to see this rabbi and was let into the house. He soon appeared and I asked
him the question. He did not answer it. He sat silently. This happened even
after I repeated my question three times. I was not going to repeat it again.
Then he said, “Rav Eidensohn…” When I heard that, I knew I was going to get a
real beating. And I was right. He continued, “A Rov never says what you just
said.” Well, I thought, the next thing is for him to throw me out of the house,
and awaited that, even though I had no idea why he felt that way. But he
suddenly got up and went into the next room, where I could see him clearly. He
was obviously involved in an important decision, and went back and forth. Then
he came back to me and said, “I have a serious shaalo.” When I heard that I
didn’t know what world I was in. First he tells me that I don’t know how to
talk. And now he tells me, of all
people, that he has a serious Torah question.
He
said to me that he must ask Reb Moshe Feinstein zt”l a question, but does not
know how to reach him. I realized that I was in a very strange world now. Here
is the person who is the expert on Gittin in all of Israel, who is desperate to
ask a question of Reb Moshe Feinstein, somebody he surely had spoken to many
times, and he asks me, somebody who doesn’t know how to talk, how he gets to
Reb Moshe? But my policy always was and is, if a great rabbi will talk to
you, strike. And I did. “Rabbi,” I said.
“I am a close disciple of Reb Moshe, and will gladly bring your question, after
it is written by you, to Reb Moshe. I will leave for Reb Moshe first thing in
the morning.” The next morning, bright and early, I was on the bus and soon was
racing up the steps to the house of Reb Moshe.
Suddenly,
an arm of steel seized me and demanded, “Where are you going?” I answered, “I
am going to Reb Moshe.” He replied, “Reb Moshe is not feeling well. You can’t
go today.” I replied, “I have a letter from the Aido HaCharedis in Israel.” He
immediately passed me on and I went flying up the steps. Yes, Reb Moshe wasn’t
feeling well, and his rebbetsin was not thrilled that I had come to deliver
something to him, but the gabbai of Reb Moshe, who was a friend of mine,
welcomed me warmly, read the letter, and assured me that I would be issued an answer
by Reb Moshe who would respond shortly.
Every
day I called and every day the gabei told me the same answer. “Reb Moshe
permits what he was asked, and I would soon receive an answer. But I never did.
Finally, I was going to Israel to visit my rebbe, and I wrote to the gabei that
I was going to Israel to visit my rebbe, and that once I am there, I would
surely visit the Strassberger Rov, and I left his address.” I stayed by my
rebbe a few days, and then, on Friday, I went to visit the Strassberger Rov. He
welcomed me warmly, and told me that he would soon be going to the Mikva of the
Rabbis, but that I would go to the regular Mikvah. Thus, he would be home
earlier than I would be there. And so it was.
I
came into the house and the Strassberger Rov was reading the reply from Reb
Moshe. He asked me, “Did you speak nicely to Reb Moshe?” I was stunned and
replied in a manner that left no question about that. It was only much later
than all of this became perfectly clear to me. The Strassberger then explained
to me what was puzzling him when I visited him in his house and added to it an
additional problem that was created by Reb Moshe’s letter. It seems that his
problem was about a young man who came from a country with few rabbis if any.
And nobody knew if this boy was born a Jew or something else, and maybe, he was
a mamzer or a doubtful mamzer who could not marry a Jewish woman. If the person
was a gentile it was easy to convert him to Judaism. If he was a mamzer it was
easy to marry him to a mamzeres, and there were organizations that did this.
But if he is a doubtful mamzer, it is much harder, and the only hope is to find
a gentile woman, and to convert her to Judaism, and even this is only permitted
because the child had no hope basically in his situation and some loophole had
to be found for him which was this.
At
this point I visited my rebbe Reb Fishel Hershkowitz zt”l, and told him the
entire story. He was furious at the Israeli rabbis who were considering
marrying this boy, who was extremely religious, to a gentile woman with no
Jewish experience or roots, something which could not last. He told me that the
only hope for this boy is to ask Reb Moshe Feinstein the shaalo, and he it is
expected would permit the boy to marry a Jewish woman. There was, however, a
problem in this. The senior rabbi in Israel was completely opposed to marrying
this boy to a Jewish woman. And he demanded that he marry a gentile woman who
would go through the proper process. Stay tuned.
Meanwhile,
it was Friday before Shabbos, and the Strassberger told me that the letter from
Reb Moshe permitted the Israeli rabbis to marry the boy to a gentile woman who
would do what the Shulchan Aruch advises for a doubtful mamzer. The only
question now was to clarify if the boy must make a berocho at the wedding or
not. He told me to go to the senior rov was controlled the rabbis of Israel and
ask the question to him. I went, found the rabbi, and told him that the
Strassberger Rov asked the above question. The Rov answered that they should
take a gemora that has a similar question, read the words, and that would take
care of the question.
Something
began to bother me. So, they are going full blast, with Reb Moshe’s permission,
to make this marriage. But Reb Moshe is not in charge at all. I suddenly said, “Rebbe,
this is an Agunah shaaloh.” Meaning, perhaps we could ask Reb Moshe the shaalo
as my rebbe Reb Fishel had demanded. The Israeli rabbi exploded at me and said,
“Somebody wanted to say that and we wanted to put him Cherem.” When I heard
that, it just blew me away. The next thing I knew was that two hands reached
into my head, parted my skull, and threw a paper into my head. It shot out of
my mouth and I heard myself saying, “The Rov should pasken, not suggest, that
the boy ask Reb Moshe the shaalo.” But
the Israeli Rov wasn’t even looking at me. He was looking away from me, towards
somebody who was very prominent, and talking to him. I saw nobody. So I
repeated myself again about the Rov paskening that the boy go to Reb Moshe to
ask his shaaloh.
The
Rov suddenly swerved back to me and said strongly, “I heard you the first time.
Yes, I pasken that the boy ask Reb Moshe the Shaaloh.” Obviously, the two hands
in my head that shot out the paper were the hands of Reb Fishel, who flew in
seconds from America to Israel to save me from being put in Cherem.
When
I heard what the Israeli rabbi had said, that the boy should ask Reb Moshe the
shaalo, I reverted to style, to bother every Gadol without mercy until they
hinted to me that my time was up. I sat with him Erev Shabbos about half and
hour and returned to the Strassberger Rov with the pleasant news. Obviously,
when he was searching for Reb Moshe, he had the same idea in mind. But he could
not rule against the major Rov in Israel. Now that this Rov has reversed
course, the Strassberger was happy to add his agreement that the boy should ask
his shaaloh from Reb Moshe. I then found a major Rov who agreed that the boy
should ask Reb Moshe his shaaloh.
I
now prepared to return to America and present my treasure to the boy himself. The
boy, however, immediately demanded that Reb Moshe is an American and he only
wants Israeli rabbis to rule on this. I went to a prominent American rabbi who
spoke to the boy who agreed to go to Reb Moshe as all of the Israeli rabbis had
demanded. I never saw him again.
Now,
of course, it is surely time to return to the beginning of our discussion here,
the departed Tauber brothers who build such mighty Torah structures. The two
were Emil and Yechiel Tauber in a family filled with special rabbis who served
others with heart and soul. I was in Israel for Pesach this year and did not
hear that Emil passed away just before Pesach. I called his son Akiva Tauber
who had showed the greatest kindness to me when I had to borrow money for my
wife, that he would drive to me not that I came to him. Emil was also very
considerate about helping me in such situations, despite the terrible problems
he personally was suffering. But the large family were all very kind and helpful
people. And surely the great souls of Emil and Yechiel will rejoice in heaven
when people on this world voice their appreciation for the wonderful Torah
community that they and their relatives established.