A while back I was talking to a major Rov in Israel about Shalom Bayis. I told him that I wanted to make a program for Shalom Bayis whereby neutral people would deal with the problems of the marriage. And I added, "And not the mother or the father of one of the spouses." The Rov forcefully nodded his assent . When there are problems in marriage, that itself is not the end; nor is it the beginning of the end. But when somebody gets involved to protect one side, and pours gasoline on the flames, the marriage and family can be destroyed.
There are people who deliberately try to break a marriage. This may sound fantastic, but I have seen it. Once somebody called me up with a complaint about his wife. It sounded like he was really aggravated, and it was hard to understand just what his wife had done to him. I asked him who he was talking to and he told me so and so. I asked, "Isn't that person just divorced?" He said, "yes." I said, "Get him out of your house." I never heard any more complaints.
Destroyers of Marriage -Making MamzerimThen we have the rabbis and the dayanaim who want to help women and not men. This may sound fantastic. But New York State made a GET law that forces men to give a GET. Somebody spoke to me today and told me that he is frequently in Manhattan courtrooms because of his divorce situation. And he and other men are told clearly that the law requires them to give a GET or else. This law was passed by Orthodox rabbis and prominent Orthodox individuals who wanted to help ladies get a GET. And of course, they will say that they want to help men also. But a forced GET is a forced GET and it is invalid. The Vilna Gaon says clearly that nobody disagrees with this. So what is the source for the rabbis who made the New York State GET Law to force a husband to divorce his wife? The Chasam Sofer says clearly that if some rabbis permit coercion and some disagree, and the husband was coerced by somebody who permits the coercion, the GET is invalid completely and the children born from it are mamzerim. But here we have a minority of rabbis and people who defy the greatest rabbis in the world, who have protested these coercions, and have said they don't recognize the GET of anyone who coerces husbands to divorce, and all they care about is their opinion that has no source at all in halacha. See Shulchan Aruch Even Hoezer 77 paragraphs 2 and 3. All of the opinions forbid coercion of a GET simply because the wife wants it. Coercion is permitted only when the husband marries a forbidden woman or some other very serious matter. But today, right and left, we have rabbis who invent halacha and produce mamzerim. In the next generation there will be two sets of Jews, and one set will not be able to marry the other ones.
A man who obeys the New York State Get Law and divorces his wife, under the pressure of the court, has issued in invalid GET. The children the wife has after her divorce with another man are born while she is still married to the first husband. They are probably mamzerim. And nobody talks about this.
A know of a group of prominent rabbis who banded together to force a husband to give a GET and there was no halachic base for the coercion. I publicized my opinion with the sources that these rabbis are making a mamzer factory and the mamzerim born are destroyed, who will marry them. Thus, these rabbis are guilty of child molesting.
Yes, these things are going on today, and the ones promoting and practicing them have fine position in the rabbinate and among Beth Dins. And there is not a shred of proof that their opinion produces a Kosher GET.
Thus, those who encourage broken marriages and those who encourage broken Gittin will have to answer a Beth Din in the Other World that agrees with the Shulchan Aruch. What will they do then?
There are people who deliberately try to break a marriage. This may sound fantastic, but I have seen it. Once somebody called me up with a complaint about his wife. It sounded like he was really aggravated, and it was hard to understand just what his wife had done to him. I asked him who he was talking to and he told me so and so. I asked, "Isn't that person just divorced?" He said, "yes." I said, "Get him out of your house." I never heard any more complaints.
Destroyers of Marriage -Making MamzerimThen we have the rabbis and the dayanaim who want to help women and not men. This may sound fantastic. But New York State made a GET law that forces men to give a GET. Somebody spoke to me today and told me that he is frequently in Manhattan courtrooms because of his divorce situation. And he and other men are told clearly that the law requires them to give a GET or else. This law was passed by Orthodox rabbis and prominent Orthodox individuals who wanted to help ladies get a GET. And of course, they will say that they want to help men also. But a forced GET is a forced GET and it is invalid. The Vilna Gaon says clearly that nobody disagrees with this. So what is the source for the rabbis who made the New York State GET Law to force a husband to divorce his wife? The Chasam Sofer says clearly that if some rabbis permit coercion and some disagree, and the husband was coerced by somebody who permits the coercion, the GET is invalid completely and the children born from it are mamzerim. But here we have a minority of rabbis and people who defy the greatest rabbis in the world, who have protested these coercions, and have said they don't recognize the GET of anyone who coerces husbands to divorce, and all they care about is their opinion that has no source at all in halacha. See Shulchan Aruch Even Hoezer 77 paragraphs 2 and 3. All of the opinions forbid coercion of a GET simply because the wife wants it. Coercion is permitted only when the husband marries a forbidden woman or some other very serious matter. But today, right and left, we have rabbis who invent halacha and produce mamzerim. In the next generation there will be two sets of Jews, and one set will not be able to marry the other ones.
A man who obeys the New York State Get Law and divorces his wife, under the pressure of the court, has issued in invalid GET. The children the wife has after her divorce with another man are born while she is still married to the first husband. They are probably mamzerim. And nobody talks about this.
A know of a group of prominent rabbis who banded together to force a husband to give a GET and there was no halachic base for the coercion. I publicized my opinion with the sources that these rabbis are making a mamzer factory and the mamzerim born are destroyed, who will marry them. Thus, these rabbis are guilty of child molesting.
Yes, these things are going on today, and the ones promoting and practicing them have fine position in the rabbinate and among Beth Dins. And there is not a shred of proof that their opinion produces a Kosher GET.
Thus, those who encourage broken marriages and those who encourage broken Gittin will have to answer a Beth Din in the Other World that agrees with the Shulchan Aruch. What will they do then?
I feel marriage is a very serious institution and hence people should really take all of its aspects seriously.
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